BEING INTROVERTED BY DESIGN

has really done a number on me. I’ve struggled my entire life with feeling inadequate, boring, unworthy, and simply misunderstood. At some point, I realized I felt this way because of my own imposed ideals. I desperately wanted to be like those other girls, you know, the ones that laugh loudly, speak proudly, and are the life of the party? The ones that share the best stories. That literally don’t give a shit about what anyone thinks of them.

Yeah, the extroverted girls.

Then I had a WTF revelation in my early 20’s. Being introverted effing rocks! Spending time alone, engrossed in a book, is time well spent. Sitting down with a cup of tea at night, listening to my favorite podcast, beats any party. Putting down all my thoughts on paper and analyzing myself, is actually soothing. Taking a long solitary walk is more refreshing than joining a group lunch. There is NOTHING wrong with any of these things.

But then I had an even bigger GTFO revelation in my late 20’s. It was 2012 and I got hired at a Fortune 500 company. It was my first real job. A few days in, I found myself sitting in a meeting room surrounded by seasoned professionals. Someone asked me to introduce myself. I broke out in a sweat and somehow managed to remember my name and my title. Weeks, months later, I realized I wasn’t able to even get myself to ask a question in a room full of strangers. I found myself taking notes after notes after notes. Never contributing anything. Never speaking up. Never having a presence. This was a result of years of being homeschooled and years of pursuing a professional tennis career. Both very solitary things, so any social situation made me anxious.

Social anxiety effing sucks! Dreading social invitations, running away before someone I know sees me, not being able to jump into a group conversation, being debilitated at the idea of a phone call, and so many more instances such as these, truly took a toll on me. I was mentally exhausted with all the limitations I placed on myself.

Enough was enough. I set a goal to have the necessary extroverted skills to feel comfortable in any situation. To have the ability to flip a switch back and forth and get the benefits of both worlds. I was exhausted of being exhausted every time I stepped out of my shell. I wanted the extroverted qualities to come naturally to me… the same way being introverted did.

My journey has now led me to you. Or you to me.

The effort I put in to get out of my skin was totally worth it. Yeah, it took a lot out of me, and I questioned my sanity each step of the way, but the results and benefits far outweigh the challenges I internally faced. I’m more comfortable in my skin and feel much happier in situations I once dreaded (such as being stuck in an elevator with someone I know). Anyone you ask will tell you that there’s no way I’m introverted – but it couldn’t be further from the truth. Which is why I created HonestRox. I want to share all the strategies I’ve used and impart all the knowledge I’ve gained so that you too can feel confident no matter the situation you find yourself in. I want you to be the best damn introvert you can.

If you’re anything like me, you’ve been bombarded your entire life with messages that in other to make it, to succeed, to get noticed, to have an impact, you MUST be an extrovert. You MUST find a way to fake it. You MUST change.

I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to change. You have to enhance. 

By making that mindset shift, I successfully climbed up the corporate ladder, swapped careers left and right (Finance, IT, Mobile Marketing roles), increased my salary by 70% within 5 years and built a network I can call upon at any moment in time. I went from being the girl that takes notes in the corner, to the girl that leads the entire meeting on her own and calls out BS when needed. I went from being a quiet mouse to expressing my opinions loud and clear. I learned to speak up properly, to connect successfully, and to have the right amount of influence in my career. These are all the skills I want to impart to you.

I know you’re ready for your own journey because you’re here.

The point is not to be wildly extroverted, outgoing or social every minute of every day. The point is to be able to freely and unabashedly be yourself to the fullest at any moment in time, whatever that looks like.

So let’s get to work! All the content on this website is geared to helping you become the best version of you. Please feel free to reach out to me with any questions, comments, or concerns. I’m always open to a conversation or to a collaboration.

P.S.

There are  phases in my life that pushed me out of my comfort zone

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SHORT HAIR

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BRACE FACE

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AIRBNB SUPERHOST

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BABY MAMA

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