You probably want to know more about what qualifies me to speak about Social Anxiety, right?

But first, here are some random facts about me, because why not?

I speak 3 languages fluently (French, Romanian, English) and understand Dutch and Spanish. I’ve lived in 4 different countries and touched ground on 25 of them. I used to be a professional tennis player, but I was born a writer. I have a deep love for tattoos, historical fiction, and rain. Postal Service and Taylor Swift are on all my playlists. I’m not a risk-taker, but lately, I’m taking more risks. I’ve never been drunk (I don’t particularly care for alcohol). And lastly, for some reason, I can twist my tongue into a crazy flower shape. Now, onto the “real” stuff.

I spent a long time battling imposter syndrome throughout my years, trying my best every step of the way to gain credibility.

To reach a certain level of expertise in whatever role I found myself in, whether that was a Financial Analyst, a Functional Analyst, or a Business Analyst. I never felt like I could – there were always others who had more experience, more knowledge, more passion. I felt deflated for a long time in my professional career. One day, I looked around my cubicle and asked myself, “Is this it? Is this what I’m going to stare at decades from now?”.

It was at that moment that I decided I had enough of being miserable and misaligned.

It didn’t matter how many times I got promoted. How many degrees I had. I just wanted out. My immense love of psychology and people, in general, made me reconsider the path I was on. I quit my job in Corporate in 2019, moved to Amsterdam (from Florida), and got a second Master’s degree in Applied Cognitive Psychology (the first one was in IT management).

I wish I could tell you it was useful. It wasn’t. I again fell into the same trap. See, I decided to get that degree to have the credibility to speak on Social Anxiety. I knew I wanted to dedicate my time and have this website be my full-time job, but I felt like I needed something to back me up. I graduated with the degree, but by that time, I realized something. My EXPERIENCE gives me credibility. Not a piece of paper. Or what someone says about me. My experience dealing with and going through phases of Social Anxiety is my one real truth. The truth you’re going to find as you go through all my content.

And that begins here with my affair with Social Anxiety.

BEING INTROVERTED BY DESIGN

has really done a number on me. I’ve struggled my entire life with feeling inadequate, boring, unworthy, and misunderstood. At some point, I realized I felt this way because of my own imposed ideals. I desperately wanted to be like those other girls, you know, the ones that laugh loudly, speak proudly, and are the life of the party? The ones that share the best stories. That literally doesn’t give a shit about what anyone thinks of them.

Yeah, the extroverted girls.

Then I had a WTF revelation in my early 20’s. Being introverted effing rocks! Spending time alone, engrossed in a book, is time well spent. Sitting down with a cup of tea at night, listening to my favorite podcast beats any party. Putting down all my thoughts on paper and analyzing myself is actually soothing. Taking a long solitary walk is more refreshing than joining a group lunch. There is NOTHING wrong with any of these things.

But then I had an even bigger revelation in my late 20’s.

It was 2012, and I got hired at a Fortune 500 company. It was my first real job. A few days in, I found myself sitting in a meeting room surrounded by seasoned professionals. Someone asked me to introduce myself. I broke out in a sweat and somehow managed to remember my name and my title. Weeks months later, I realized I couldn’t even get myself to ask a question in a room full of strangers. I found myself taking notes after notes after notes. Never contributing anything, never speaking up, never having a presence. This was a result of years of being homeschooled and years of pursuing a professional tennis career. Both very solitary things, so any social situation made me anxious.

Social anxiety effing sucks.

Dreading social invitations, running away before someone I know sees me, not being able to jump into a group conversation, being debilitated at the idea of a phone call, and so many more instances such as these truly took a toll on me. I was mentally exhausted with all the limitations I placed on myself.

Enough was enough. I set a goal to have the necessary social skills to feel comfortable in any situation. I wanted the confidence to come naturally to me…the same way being anxious did.

My journey has now led me to you. Or you to me.

The effort I put in to get out of my skin was totally worth it. Yeah, it took a lot out of me, and I questioned my sanity each step of the way, but the results and benefits far outweigh the challenges I internally faced. I’m more comfortable in my skin and feel much happier in situations I once dreaded (such as being stuck in an elevator with someone I know). Anyone you ask will tell you that there’s no way I have Social Anxiety or that I’m introverted – but it couldn’t be further from the truth.

This is why I created HonestRox.

I want to share all the strategies I’ve used and impart all the knowledge I’ve gained so that you too can feel confident no matter the situation you find yourself in. I want you to be the best damn introvert you can be.

If you’re anything like me, you’ve been bombarded your entire life with messages that in other to make it, to succeed, to get noticed, to have an impact, you MUST be an extrovert. You MUST find a way to fake it. You MUST change.

I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to change. You have to enhance. 

By making that mindset shift, I successfully climbed up the corporate ladder, swapped careers left and right (Finance, IT, Mobile Marketing roles), increased my salary by 70% within 5 years, and built a network I can call upon at any moment in time. I went from being the girl that takes notes in the corner to the girl that leads the entire meeting on her own and calls out BS when needed. I went from being a quiet mouse to expressing my opinions loud and clear. Finally, I learned to speak up properly, connect successfully, and have the right amount of influence in my career. These are all the skills I want to impart to you.

I know you’re ready for your own journey because you’re here.

The point is not to be wildly extroverted, outgoing, or social every minute of every day. The point is to freely and unabashedly be yourself to the fullest at any moment in time, whatever that looks like.

So let’s get to work! All the content on this website is geared to helping you become the best version of yourself. Please feel free to reach out to me with any questions, comments, or concerns. I’m always open to a conversation or collaboration.

P.S.

There are  phases in my life that pushed me out of my comfort zone

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SHORT HAIR

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BRACE FACE

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AIRBNB HOST

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BABY MAMA

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