BEING INTROVERTED BY DESIGN

has really done a number on me. I’ve struggled my entire life with feeling inadequate, boring, unworthy, and simply misunderstood. At some point, I realized I felt this way because of my own imposed ideals. I desperately wanted to be like those other girls, you know, the ones that laugh loudly, speak proudly, and are the life of the party? The ones that share the best stories. That literally don’t give a shit about what anyone thinks of them.

Yeah, the extroverted girls.

Then I had a WTF revelation in my early 20’s. Being introverted effing rocks! Spending time alone, engrossed in a book, is time well spent. Sitting down with a cup of tea at night, listening to my favorite podcast, beats any party. Putting down all my thoughts on paper and analyzing myself, is actually soothing. Taking a long solitary walk is more refreshing than joining a group lunch. There is NOTHING wrong with any of these things.

But then I had an even bigger GTFO revelation in my late 20’s. It was 2012 and I got hired at a Fortune 500 company. It was my first real job. A few days in, I found myself sitting in a meeting room surrounded by seasoned professionals. Someone asked me to introduce myself. I broke out in a sweat and somehow managed to remember my name and my title. Weeks, months later, I realized I wasn’t able to even get myself to ask a question in a room full of strangers. I found myself taking notes after notes after notes. Never contributing anything. Never speaking up. Never having a presence. This was a result of years of being homeschooled and years of pursuing a professional tennis career. Both very solitary things, so any social situation made me anxious.

Social anxiety effing sucks! Dreading social invitations, running away before someone I know sees me, not being able to jump into a group conversation, being debilitated at the idea of a phone call, and so many more instances such as these, truly took a toll on me. I was mentally exhausted with all the limitations I placed on myself.

Enough was enough. I set a goal to have the necessary extroverted skills to feel comfortable in any situation. To have the ability to flip a switch back and forth and get the benefits of both worlds. I was exhausted of being exhausted every time I stepped out of my shell. I wanted the extroverted qualities to come naturally to me… the same way being introverted did.

My journey has now led me to you. Or you to me.

The effort I put in to get out of my skin was totally worth it. Yeah, it took a lot out of me, and I questioned my sanity each step of the way, but the results and benefits far outweigh the challenges I internally faced. I’m more comfortable in my skin and feel much happier in situations I once dreaded (such as being stuck in an elevator with someone I know). Anyone you ask will tell you that there’s no way I’m introverted – but it couldn’t be further from the truth. Which is why I created HonestRox. I want to share all the strategies I’ve used and impart all the knowledge I’ve gained so that you too can feel confident no matter the situation you find yourself in. I want you to be the best damn introvert you can.

BE YOURSELF BUT WITH ADDED OOMPH

MY BEST FRIEND OF 26 YEARS IS THE MOST EXTROVERTED PERSON I KNOW.

MY HUSBAND IS A SUPER GREGARIOUS GUY WHO MAKES A FOOL OF HIMSELF.


ME ON THE OTHER HAND? I WISHED MY WHOLE LIFE TO BE JUST LIKE THEM.

EXCEPT I’M NOT. IT TOOK A PAINSTAKINGLY LONG TIME TO GET THAT MEMO.

IT TOOK MANY FRUSTRATING CONVERSATIONS WITH MYSELF TO DECIDE:

I WANT TO
.

CHOOSE THE ELEVATOR INSTEAD OF RUNNING FOR THE STAIRS

HOST & ATTEND PARTIES WITHOUT WANTING TO CANCEL/DITCH THEM


SHARE MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE WHEN NO ONE ASKS ME TO

SPEAK UP AND INTERRUPT (IF NEED BE) DURING MEETINGS AT WORK

PICK UP THE PHONE TO ACTUALLY DO WHAT IT’S MEANT FOR…CALL

I DON’T WANT TO BE EXTROVERTED

I WANT TO BE COMFORTABLE BEING MY SILLY SELF

AND THRIVE IN WAYS I NEVER DREAMED POSSIBLE

Be your best self

If you’re anything like me, you’ve been bombarded your entire life with messages that in other to make it, to succeed, to get noticed, to have an impact, you MUST be an extrovert. You MUST find a way to fake it. You MUST change.

I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to change. You have to enhance. 

By making that mindset shift, I successfully climbed up the corporate ladder, swapped careers left and right (Finance, IT, Mobile Marketing roles), increased my salary by 70% within 5 years and built a network I can call upon at any moment in time. I went from being the girl that takes notes in the corner, to the girl that leads the entire meeting on her own and calls out BS when needed. I went from being a quiet mouse to expressing my opinions loud and clear. I learned to speak up properly, to connect successfully, and to have the right amount of influence in my career. These are all the skills I want to impart to you.

I know you’re ready for your own journey because you’re here.

The point is not to be wildly extroverted, outgoing or social every minute of every day. The point is to be capable of being outgoing and engaging when you need to be.

But just like anything else in life, success is achieved through deliberate baby steps. And the first step you need to take is to strategically use all of the strengths you have as an introvert and make an impact on those around you. Once you’ve completed that step, we will take it to the next level, which is to seriously put yourself in the shoes of an extrovert. To help you get your feet wet, I’ve created the following courses to help you start your journey.

The introvert's guide: how to make an impact at work course

How To Make An Impact At Work

The introvert's guide: how to grow your network course

How To Grow Your Network

The Introvert's Guide: How To Build Your Sphere of Influence Course

How To Build Your Sphere Of Influence

P.S.

I’m a(n) MomWriter. Analyst. Dreamer. Pancake Lover.


EVEN INTROVERTS ARE 
SOCIAL