My name isn’t HonestRox for nothing…
I’ll be honest. I spent a whole year is absolute uncontrollable pain. As in, herniated disc pain. If you’ve never experienced that, hallelujah! I hope you never do. If you have, you know how debilitating it is and how the pain seeps into all areas of your life. It’s not just the physical aspect of the pain, but the mental toll it can have on you and your family.
But what I realized out of that experience (other than the fact that 3 million Americans experience it in a given year) is that being in pain makes me MORE introverted.
How shocking, I know!
And when I’m more introverted, I lose out on opportunities. I find myself cutting conversations short because I’m in no mood to stand with backstabbing pain shooting down my leg, I avoid going out to lunch, preferring to hide behind my desk with a heating pad on, and I decline social invitations with my friends because I have nothing else to say other than I’m in pain 24/7!
This was pretty much how I spent a whole year.
I don’t even have to explain to you how I was in no mood to work AT ALL. I’m sure you know what that’s like, even without being in pain.
Ok, Roxana, what’s your point?!
See, as I was dealing with this nonsense, I ran into an old manager of mine one day and, for some reason, decided to open up to him. I remembered seeing him walk with a cane a few years back so I took a chance and asked him if he’s ever had a herniated disc.
But that wasn’t all. He told me he had surgery for it which couldn’t have come at a better time because it was something I was truly considering at that point. He pulled me into his office, went through every possible thing he did in the past 10 years to make sure he stays healthy, gave me ALL his contacts, told me who to call and what to do. I expressed the difficulties I’ve been having and told him everything I felt.
Then, he sent me an e-mail to tell me that he’s there for me no matter what. That he wants to pay for all the knowledge he gained forward.
And now I’m here telling you that THIS is why it’s super important to open up. To allow people in. To seek help. Had I just moped around at my desk and just said “hi” in passing to him, I wouldn’t have started down the path to true recovery. And I wouldn’t have had the moral support and guidance he ended up giving me.
So what I want you to take away from this long-ass e-mail is that no matter what you’re going through, or in how much pain you’re in, allow yourself to be open. Good things happen when you do.
Let this decade be the most open one yet.
And in better days, that’s when you make the most impact on your personal and professional life.