Hi – I’m Roxana
I write a LOT about Social Anxiety
& life as an introvert (INFJ & HSP over here!)
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Social Anxiety As A Mom

I never learned how to build a sandcastle.

In fact, growing up, my family and I only went on vacation once at the beach (we lived in Canada). We spent the whole time at the pool from what I can remember. So I was never in a position to build a sandcastle before. Now, as a mom living in Florida, I made sure to buy my son a whole set of beach toys the moment he figured out how to walk on his own. I wanted him to dig in the sand, and build his own Elsa […]

Here’s My Impossible List (Forget Resolutions)

It’s that time of year again.

I don’t know about you, but I stopped making New Year’s resolutions a long time ago. Not only did I never follow through on them (on average, people stick to a resolution 36 days), but I felt super shitty at the end of the year. I never seemed to accomplish them, and it made me feel like a weak person. That’s not how I want to start any year again.

In fact, a while back, I wrote this blog post about not being a victim to the fresh start effect and how any […]

I Stuffed Myself With Self-Care & Then Exploded

Search results yield 3 trillion websites on the internet that talk about, or use, the word “self-care“. The definition on the side panel tells me that “In health care, self-care is any necessary human regulatory function which is under individual control, deliberate and self-initiated“. Let’s put these bolded words in the back of our pocket for now, as we’ll come back to them later. Under this term, there are probably many articles and blog posts that discuss what self-care looks like for those of us with introverted souls. And for those of us that are HSPs. […]

Social Anxiety & Beauty – Not A Love Story

There are a lot of discussions out there about Social Anxiety (no wonder I have a whole website dedicated to it!), but there are still so many undiscovered angles, especially because it impacts people in so many different ways. I’m now more aware of the fact that Social Anxiety is contextual. It can manifest itself in various forms, depending on your personal history or personality type. I’ve written extensively about how Social Anxiety has affected me in the past, and the strategies I’ve used to break free from it, but I never truly explored […]

Please! No More Virtual Meetings

Oh, the virtual meetings you’ll have. And the exhaustion that comes with them.

Every morning, at 8:30 on the dot, I join a Google hangout meeting for work. To be honest, I wake up 5 minutes prior, put my hair up, and turn on the camera. I need all the sleep I can get before I face another day inside with an energetic toddler. Then, throughout the week, I have a few more virtual meetings for work that I attend. These calls are difficult to handle with a toddler running around the house. I end up […]

This Outbreak Made Me Realize ONE Big Thing

I’ve recently had a big realization. An epiphany. A learning experience.

Whatever you want to call it, I’ve realized something in the past few weeks. Other than the fact that I can eat myself to sleep and not feel guilty about it. What else is a quarantined pregnant woman to do?

Let me slightly backtrack to June 2019. I was fed up with my job and the monotony of my daily routine. My life consisted of being in the car 90% of the time because #Floridalife. I was absolutely miserable going to work and could only see dead-end signs […]

5 Opportunities To Seize During Social Distancing

After writing the post Even Introverts Have A Hard Time With Social Distancing, I thought to myself “how else can I add clarity while we’re all in survival mode?“. What are some opportunities we can pounce upon to help us transition out of this chaos better? Being 28 weeks pregnant, with a toddler running around, and a husband that’s self-employed, emotions are running super high right now. As a highly sensitive person, this is probably the worst environment I can find myself in because there’s ALWAYS someone either on me or around me. The incessant noise […]

Even Introverts Have A Hard Time With Social Distancing

We’re all coping with social distancing differently.

There are enough memes going around about how the current worldwide measures have no impact on introverts. You know, because we like to isolate ourselves during normal conditions….ha ha. That couldn’t be further than the truth. Sure, I re-energize through alone time, but as an introvert and an INFJ, I need social interaction to survive. Just like everyone else, being stuck at home is not the lifestyle I would choose for myself. Especially when it means being stuck at home with an extroverted husband and a toddler. One that has […]

The 5 Unspoken INFJ Inner Struggles

I thought about the many myriads of ways that I could begin this post because there’s so much to say about the unspoken INFJ inner struggles, but I’m going to keep it simple and relay an experience I recently went through that shook my inner core completely. It made me re-evaluate how much of my true nature I should be in conflict with.

See, I tend to pride myself on how self-aware I am about my inner feelings and struggles. Even when it comes to foreseeing how I’m going to potentially react in a situation, because after […]

The 5 Commandments Of Social Anxiety

Disclaimer: This is a satirical post in no way related to the real commandments. 

I bet you love your Social Anxiety. You chummy up to it the moment you sense its presence, walking proudly hand in hand towards your group of friends, like a lover showing off his prized mate. And of course you call it up right before you’re about to walk into the high-end restaurant where all your co-workers are celebrating a promotion. You make sure it attends all the important events in your life. Social Anxiety, in turn, reciprocates your love right back. […]

5 Things You’ll Run Into If You’re An Introvert Moving Abroad

A few years ago, I dreamt of moving abroad. Earlier this year, I made the drastic decision to go through it. While this wasn’t the first time I’ve lived in a country other than my birth country, it was, in fact, the first time I was the one who called it quits on a place. Before this move, my parents were the ones who packed up all my things and moved me around the globe (without me having a say) in search of a better life. […]

Feeling Unfulfilled In Life? Here Are 6 (Potential) Reasons Why

We’ve all heard the cliched phrase “life is a rollercoaster ride”, and for good measure, because the moment we’re feeling the highest of highs, and luck is on our side, we just know that right around the corner, a gremlin is about to wreak chaos in our life. And that’s perfectly fine! Because we expect it to happen. We know that when it rains, it fucking pours, and when there’s a rainbow, it fucking shines. Excuse the language.

But what happens when that rollercoaster ride remains neutral? There you are, in the carriage, strapped in, going straight […]

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