It’s that time of year again.

I don’t know about you, but I stopped making New Year’s resolutions a long time ago. Not only did I never follow through on them (on average, people stick to a resolution of 36 days), but I felt super shitty at the end of the year. I never seemed to accomplish them, and it made me feel like a weak person. That’s not how I want to start any year again.

In fact, a while back, I wrote this blog post about not being a victim to the fresh start effect and how any day is a good day to start fresh. Basically, don’t wait for the New Year to build better habits.

But recently, I found something EVEN better to believe in.

An impossible list.

I’ve been sitting on this for a few months now, ever since Gina from the LimitBreaker introduced me to it (this is her list). In fact, follow this link to get to the original idea behind it if you want to dig deeper into the concept.

Basically, you have an ever-evolving list of goals you want to accomplish. The beauty of this impossible list is that you can segment your goals into different areas of your life to keep constant track of everything that matters to you.

Not only do you NEVER have to think of a New Year’s resolution again, because ta-da! You know exactly what you want to accomplish in your life, but it will always stay in the back of your mind as time goes on.

I find this idea super freeing because I’m not tied to making any of these happen THIS YEAR.

I know that I want to tackle them throughout my life. That’s not to say you shouldn’t set some achievable goals this year, but if you lay them out this way, you know what you’re working towards.

And as you go about your days and you cross off items from your list, you’re going to feel more confident about the direction you’re going in.

The best part is that you are free to change it as often as you change yourself. 

You’re not locking these things in the way you would a New Year’s resolution.

I would LOVE to see what your impossible list looks like, so hit me up with a comment.

If you’re curious, here’s mine (last updated May 2021).

Impossible List

Life goals
  • Graduate with second Master’s degree (January 2021)
  • Write and publish a book
  • Raise confident and strong kids (In progress)
  • Work from anywhere in the world (In progress)
  • Meet Elizabeth Gilbert & Mark Manson
  • Impact introverts with social anxiety (In progress)
  • Give a TEDx talk
  • Maintain an open and honest relationship with my husband (always in progress)
Professional goals
  • Create and publish my first online course (February 2021)
    • Sell to 10 people
    • 100 people
    • 1000 people
  • Create and publish the signature Social Anxiety course
    • Sell to 10 people
    • 100 people
    • 1000 people
  • Get 1k visits per month on the website (July 1, 2019)
    • 2,500 blog visits per month (Mar 1, 2020)
    • 5,000 blog visits per month
    • 10,000 blog visits per month
    • 50,000 blog visits per month
    • 100,000 blog visits per month
  • Open a YouTube channel (Dec 31st, 2020)
    • 10 videos (March 2021)
    • 50 videos
    • 100 videos
  • Gain 100 YouTube Subscribers
    • 1000 subscribers
    • 2500 subscribers
    • 5000 subscribers
    • 10,000 subscribers
    • 50,000 subscribers
    • 100,000 subscribers & earn the Silver button
    •  500,000 subscribers
    • 1 million subscribers & earn the Gold button
  • Collaborate with a YouTuber
    • Gina from LimitBreaker
    • Frank from INFJ Boy
    • Lana Blakely
  • Write a book about being socially confident
    • Walk into a bookstore and see it there
  • Get 500 Instagram followers (March 27th, 2020)
  • Give a TedX talk
  • Make 10,000 gross a month from Honestrox
  • Become a mentor/coach
Creative goals
  • Publish a science fiction book (In progress)
  • Create, build and sell a journal for bloggers
  • Do introvert singing parodies
  • Have an introvert merchandise line
  • Learn how to draw and illustrate
  • Learn how to play the piano
Skill goals
  • Become fluent in Dutch (In progress)
  • Become fluent in Spanish (In progress)
  • Learn how to bake
Experience goals
  • Skydive
  • Be part of a murder mystery game
  • Attend a masquerade party
  • Attend a real TED talk
  • Do a week yoga retreat
  • See the northern lights
  • Run a 5k
  • Run a 10k
  • Live in Europe (August 28th, 2019)
  • Live in Asia
Travel goals
  • Travel in an RV (February 2021)
  • See all US national parks
  • England
  • China
  • Singapore
  • Portugal
  • Australia
  • New Zealand
  • Bora Bora
Social Anxiety goals
  • Instagram live (April 30th, 2021)
  • Post a personal opinion (May 2021)
  • Do a YouTube live
  • Lead a virtual event/workshop
  • Attend an improv class
  • Sing at Karaoke
  • Hand out a business card
  • Take a dance class