I’m officially coming into your inbox from Amsterdam.

The Netherlands that is. The land of everything orange. Of windmills and wooden shoes. Caramel waffles. Bikes. And of other things that I’ll leave unnamed…


I’ll be writing of course about all my experiences of moving to a whole new country and the hardships that come with it soon enough, but for this week’s newsletter, I wanted to touch upon the pressure we’ve all felt as introverts to ‘fit in’, namely in work and school situations.

While I strongly believe in getting out of my comfort zone (HELLO I MOVED ACROSS THE OCEAN), I don’t think that should be the case every single time. They’d have to build introverted asylums for us!

Here’s what I’m talking about.

During my orientation for my second Master’s degree, I chose to buddy up with my comfort zone. If you don’t follow me on Instagram, here’s a quick video of why I decided to quit my job and move my whole life abroad in the span of 2 months. If you don’t want a quick video, here’s the quick synopsis: me sad, me unfulfilled, me seek something new. Boom you’re caught up!

So, here I was in the middle of the auditorium, looking around at the congregation of students. Most if not all were making small talk, chit-chatting with the person standing next to them. The old me would have had a slight panic attack, trying to figure out how to blend in and make conversation just so I don’t look like the odd one out, standing alone looking into the void.

Well, to let you know, new me decided to stand in the middle of the room and look around, in silence. Taking in all the sights and sounds. I had no inclination to engage in a conversation.

And you know what, I deem that to be just perfectly fine!

I don’t ALWAYS have to engage or connect, as I’ll do so on my own terms and when I’m in the right mindset. Instead of being forced to by the situation at hand.

I’ve been overwhelmed by everything that’s been happening in my life, that I finally felt at peace just taking it all in. I had no pressure to ‘fit in’. And I realized it immediately and smiled to myself.

Give yourself permission to not feel that pressure, and let it wash over you. You don’t always have to be on or try to be on. Don’t guilt-trip yourself into acting a certain way, because the opportunities to interact will come I promise.

Until next time!

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About Me

I help other introverts become socially confident. As a former
socially anxious person, I know how hard it is to be yourself
in social situations without letting anxiety get the best of you.
I created Honestrox to provide you with the best content
to help you show up as yourself confidently.

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